Iite so as we continue on from Nuke Button 1
I talked to homegirl I just straight up told her my concerns and shit, no general talk, no beating around the bush I just went forward with it.
She said she is in fact feeling me and that I'm her type of dude or whatever and although that is the case she wants to take things a day at a time because there are some issues she feels that need dealing with; such as issues wit her body (which i don't get but i never seen her wit her clothes off so...) to go from track star body to post pregbody can probably be disheartening. Issues wit her sons father n all that. So although she feeling me she ain't ready to move forward like I am....again...
..still.
Now i've never asked her to be my girl or nothing but the way things were going in our relationship (in the literal sense) was headed toward that direction and she isn't ready for such a thing.
Still
Even though her asking ME out on a date jump started this whole thing. she aint ready which is ...lemme stop.
Now i bet you're asking where does that leave me. What do I think? The whole issue that produced such a conversation was the uncertainty on whether she was feeling the kid or not and although I got my answer parts of me is saying i should leave it alone, and i told her this too. She thought i was givin her an ultimatum lol.
Shit every person I've relayed this situation to has told me to move on and I believe I should but I like her too much and perhaps its definitely to a fault because all the things that brings up a red flag in my head are prevalent when dealing with this girl.
- The probability that I am gettin the runaround
- "the chick that don't know what she want"
- the issues with her Sons father.(i hate the babymama/babyfava term). I remember effin with a chick back in albany who would stay talking about her ex, issues wit her ex and all that. this was back in 08 its 010 and shes now fucking her ex. shiet even back in 09 she was fuckin dude. Everyone is different though but A lightbulb just went off in my head when i was talking to albanychiq last night.
Maybe cause its cuffing season, maybe because I havent had sex in a week or two, maybe its cause I rarely meet girls around here due to unfamiliarity with the city as a whole and being a hombody ( in 2010 imna change my habits on that, real talk) or maybe its the fact that there is another nigga I know of who been trying to put in his bid with her (before i was even in the picture) and I dont wanna bow out and watch him gain ground on some territorial shit.
#truthis..its all of that put together, not an equal distribution though...
This blog has taught me that writing shit down as shown has shown me the reality of the situation. As long as my fingers are candid I will always see the truth that lies in the world regardless of my feeling towards it and with that comes realization. Now Whattheeefuck to do with that realization??
I don't think it has anything to do with your not having sex for two weeks, or the fact that you don't know anyone really, or even the fact that you don't want ol' boy to get with her.
I feel like if she LETS him get with her, then what does that say about the situation. If she's telling you 'one day at a time' and it's been almost 4 months, what is she telling him? Honestly, when you see red flags that really get under your skin, and they remind you of things from your past, honey, follow your first instinct.
Maybe she's worth waiting for and I'm not saying she isn't, but how long are you willing to stick around until she figures it out? Would you be hurt if you saw her with the other guy because you don't want anyone else to get at her....or because you've spent so much time and effort on a woman who doesn't know what she wants?
i was gonna write you 4 paragraphs but read reese and she summed my sentiments in a nutshell
Man I will tell u straight up. Messing with a girl with a baby daddy is a hard struggle. First she is going to always have feelings for dude because they got history and she is reminded of that everyday when she looks at her style. As much as she might talk about him or hate him deep down inside she will always wanna be with him just because they have a family together. The best thing to do is playthe sideline and don't he too pushy in the situation. It takes a long time to get over someone. And if u stick around you will be first in line when she comes around bro. It's all about patience if that's what you really wanna do.