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My mood right now? Iunno I'm down but I can only go up from here. I met a new chick not too long ago and she occupied my time on Sunday. We saw a movie n all took her to wendys lol (her idea, i hate fastfood chains). Next thing u know we forwarding over to this lovers lane type of spot (her idea, im still type new to the city) overlooking some body of water where we proceeded to do some objectionable things in the backseat of the car. Im gonna spare the details in an effort to be alot less crass (being that the viewers are generally women). Let's just say it was all foreplay...no coitus cuz red death was looming...again smh.
Anyway I saw her again yesterday (tues) and more of the same happened. But she kept dropping subtle hints about her past which led me to pop the question. I asked her straight up: how many bodies have u had? aka how many dudes have you been with (F*ck*d)?
She gives me A number I wasn't expecting. Think Lebron James number but the other way. and I proceded to turn as pale as a chocolate brotha can. I kept my composure but she sensed my shock. She kept tryin to defend herself but all I could think about was me and the worse case scenario. Eventually I responded like I'm cool (unconvincingly) cuz she really feeling me when in my head I'm like game over. I can't be with a chick who's been with that many dudes. Yeah, yeah i know double standard, judging, sexist pig, nigga please, wtf and all that but sorry no can do. She asked me if I thought she was a "whore" as she put it and I said no cause I didn't kno the situation behind all them. When that statement left my tongue in my mind that was the truth. I really don't know what situations she's been in but that didn't mean I was down with gettin with her cuz that's a number I can't do; not for the fact that the number is type high bit the risk definitely isn't worth the reward. Its not the number its basically the possibilities and her attitude towards it. shit look how easy it was for me
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Am I oding? Am I wrong to do homegirl like i did. I tried breaking it off but i made it sound as if she an effing skank which may not be the case (i was guilty lol)... iunno u divide that number by 7 and u get like 5.3 per year which isnt that bad. Besides that's probably normal for all I know. I just never had to ask a chick this. my curiosity kept peaking because of all these lil hints n shit. I'm not judging homegirl. Shiet I know dudes that are worse and i don't condone that either. . What's done is done. Kinda... the door is stilll open a bit cause i need to gauge on whether or not I am actually acting based on my OD fear of catching something that i cant let go of...or is it some common sense shit...besides i don't know how the average 22 year old do...
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i tried to find the dudes blog but i came up short - but anyways some dude analyzed a woman's body count in terms of realistic situations and it was really insightful because to me some guys just act like if you say 5 or 10 or 30, you fucked all of them in one day or something.
that whole double standard thing is crazy though. i don't think she should have to justify her # or anything because that's her business, just like how many women you've slept with is yours. to me, i would be worried about the context in which she slept with them, was it all after-the-club one night stands or what? but even still the best thing that you can do (since anybody can lie and say what you want to hear and you'd never know) is wrap it up!
I've been through the same EXACT thing. I have not had the brightest past, but I'm 'me' because of what it was. I told the dude the 'number', and he turned his back on me.
I got mad, evidently, for the fact that it was my past, but that's his opinion. But, people can get mad at the most infinitesimal shit anyways.
Well, he stopped talking to me, but he eventually went back. He had sex with one person, and one person only, so I understood him in the end.
He took a chance on me, and we're still together.
Think about the fact that, people can catch something on their first relation. Just saying that number ain't shit, in my opinion at least.